There is sometimes a point in life when a sister, mother, aunt or daughter could use some extra cash. The economy shifts unpredictably and when it rains sometimes it pours. Take me for instance. Things got bad at home between my parents and I and I was going through a rough break up just when my credit began to take a steep tumble. I had no idea how much having bad credit would affect me and I kind of ignored it for a while until now there are collectors and lawyers threatening me daily. I was getting welfare checks which enabled me to afford a cheap place away from the drama of living with my parents that was deteriorating my health. Still, I soon learned that having money didn’t matter as much as having a good credit score. It was a trust thing and it sucked big time how I had ruined my credit reputation just when I needed it most.
The whole point is it got really bad financial wise for me. I needed a good job fast. I was unemployed and depressed and I didn’t know where to turn. Then one day while innocently browsing Backpage.com for a fitting job listing I came across an ad exclaiming the hundreds of dollars girls were making for their agency. To make a long story short I contacted the person, was signed to a sketchy agency, broke free from that agency, started my own independent thing and the rest is history.
But the whole point of this post is answering the question should I become an escort? I only gave a little backstory because I know of the circumstances which can propel a girl into making desperate decisions. Escorting is not always a desperate move for a girl but for many it is. Right now I love it but for me it most definitely was. But seriously, if you are in limbo on whether or not you should decide to escort, please take a look at this list. Initially, I failed to meet some of the things on the list and suffered because of it. If you cannot identify with most of them, chances are you should not decide to be an escort or things can get a little crazy for you.
- You are mentally stable.
- You are physically healthy and have no infectious diseases.
- You are able to cope well with stress.
- You love meeting new people.
- You love sex.
- You have a safe place to lay your head.
- You have a healthy relationship with your body.
- You have a healthy relationship with food and alcohol.
- You love caring for people.
- You are single or are in an emotionally stable and supportive relationship.
All on the list is important, and when you are looking at what is morally important number 2 definitely stands out as must-have criteria. But let me be real with you. I don’t know why you are deciding to escort. But what I will say from experience is that you definitely need a safe place to lay your head. I don’t mean at a pimp’s or madam’s house either, as people can quickly smell isolation and desperation and take advantage of the situation. Trust me, I’ve been there before, living under a cold staircase for crying out loud, while I helped paid some sociopathic woman’s bills. I mean you need a place you can turn to, preferably where no one knows you are escorting because sadly there is still the bad stigma around sex workers. I admit that even I was prejudice and frankly disgusted by the idea of someone being a sex worker before I became one myself.
The reason why a safe place is important is because 1, it is impossible to rely on motels all the time and 2, you need a place to rest, cry, stuff your face with comfort food, and find sanity in this unpredictable and hard industry. That should be your first out of pocket expense as an escort, before the eyelashes. Meaning you want to look for a place anywhere, whether it be a bedroom, preferably one in a basement with a separate entrance, or your own private condo. For me, I had to start with a bedroom. Luckily I didn’t have to pay as it was at my parent’s place but they quickly found out what I was up to. It didn’t stop me from making money (well, when my mom cussed out one of my regulars it definitely took away $250 a week) but it sure made things stressful and awkward at home.
This bedroom rental thing obviously means you have to do outcalls until you can afford a motel or hotel room or a furnished temporary rental. It is always good to save up for at least 4 days in my opinion. What I did when I was just starting up was find a temporary rental. I am currently at that place just in the wrong town (Windsor) where good clients are few and far between.
If you can afford to rent a condo privately in your early stages chances are you don’t need to be escorting, lol. But hey who said escorting was just for the money. But it is the best option. The reason I say condo and not just any private entire places is because it is the most discreet with being able to buzz people up to your room. Unless you have a full house all to yourself, bringing incalls into your basement apartment is just asking for attention.
If you have to start small with a bedroom rental, obviously you need another source of income initially. With this type of arrangement the other tenants might grow suspicious eventually but what matters most is your relationship with them and the landlord. Also having savings is equally important as you never know when your welcome might run out and you need to hit the road. Having a separate number is also crucial because if they can’t 100% prove anything and you are very respectful then they have no choice but to keep you around. Don’t be an idiot like me and use the same number for everything. You might soon be answering your landlord or worse (dad) with your bedroom voice thinking it is a client. Yes, it almost happened multiple times to me!
Stuck and starting off at your parent’s place? You were like me when I just started out. I always say if you can help only seeing one client a day (and when they aren’t around) do so. Then save up to move out. Well, it depends on the type of parents you have. You just don’t want to be doing outcalls from your old people’s place if they’re strict or uptight because then you can face being kicked out. Understandably, parents can be tougher nuts than landlords. You are their child, after all.
I suggest going out from six and after. Say you host events, say you club hop or something with your friends, say you have to go for a fashion show, or you have a boyfriend into fancy dates. Even a needy female buddy. Talk about a secret club. Get creative.
So, should you be an escort? The question should really be: do you have a stable place to rest your head?